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Varṇāśrama Interview with HH Bhaktividyā Pūrṇa Mahārāja

[The following interview about varāśrama was conducted on 30 May 2017 by Nagarī Mātājī (BVKS) for the Russian website of HH Bhakti Vikāsa Swami’s disciples.]

(This Interview was transcribed and kindly supplied to our website by Sulālitā dd (BBGS), edited by Balaram Briant from Bhaktivedanta Academy, Sridham Mayapur)

Varṇāśrama stereotypes

Nagarī Mātājī: What is the essence, or the foundation, of varāśrama? Many devotees confuse it with the caste system.

HH Bhaktividyā Pūra Mahārāja: Caste system, I see. If you listen to modern academics, if you listen to modern socially oriented people, they will try to make it into a caste system. Because the purpose is if make it look bad you don’t have to follow it. Continue reading Varṇāśrama Interview with HH Bhaktividyā Pūrṇa Mahārāja

SB 5.18 The Prayers Offered to the Lord by the Residents of Jambūdvīpa

CHAPTER 18 started 14th Apr 2016 Lecture 1 starting at about 00:41:48
  • Understanding of the Lord only comes when He reveals Himself. Any level of understanding of the Lord is because He has revealed it.
  • God is a person, He already has what He likes to do.
  • Rhetorical questions are only poetic means to make a point.

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SRIMAD BHAGAVATAM CANTO 3 #55

23rd January 2015, Bhaktivedanta Academy, Sri Mayapur Dhama

Reading from Srimad Bhagavatam Study Guide: 23. The Supreme Lord continued: “The Emperor Svāyambhuva Manu, the son of Lord Brahmā, who is well known for his righteous acts, has his seat in Brahmāvarta and rules over the earth with its seven oceans. The day after tomorrow, O brāhmaṇa, that celebrated emperor, who is expert in religious activities, will come here with his queen, Śatarūpā, wishing to see you. He has a grown-up daughter whose eyes are black. She is ready for marriage, and she has good character and all good qualities. She is also searching for a good husband. My dear sir, her parents will come to see you, who are exactly suitable for her, just to deliver their daughter as your wife.” Continue reading SRIMAD BHAGAVATAM CANTO 3 #55

SRIMAD BHAGAVATAM CANTO 3 #53

16th January 2015, Bhaktivedanata Academy, Sri Mayapur Dhama

Reading from Srimad Bhagavatam Study guide: “Devotional service to His lotus feet is the root cause of all perfections a person can find in heaven, in liberation and in the subterranean regions and on earth (SB 10.81.19). It is further explained by Srila Prabhupada in his purport:

“In spite of his condemning persons who approach the Lord for material advantages, Kardama Muni expressed his material inability and desire before the Lord by saying, “Although I know that nothing material should be asked from You, I nevertheless desire to marry a girl of like disposition.” Continue reading SRIMAD BHAGAVATAM CANTO 3 #53

BRIHAD MANU SIKSHA #24

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TOPIC 13 LAWS CONCERNING WOMEN
  • Nothing must be done independently by a woman.
  • Woman should never seek to separate from husband, father, son.
  • Woman should always be cheerful, expert in house management, careful in cleaning and economical in expenditure.

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Brihad Manu Siksha #11 Lecture Notes

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  • Honoring the wife and son of the teacher.
  • Senior students in the Gurukula should also be honored.
  • Teachers who teach great number of students, teach 10 of them, and they teach younger students.
  • It is generally not recommended to take more than 12 students.
  • Assisting in bath, taking remnants etc are not done for the teacher’s wife and son.
  • After 20 years of age (at the age where one is aware and male and female interaction) one should not touch the feet of Guru’s wife.
  • Materially elevated people may be more refined and sense-controlled, but only devotee can be free from material desires.
  • One should not stay in a lonely place even with one’s mother, sister or daughter.
  • Manu gives standard human culture.
  • If Guru’s wife is elderly, the student may render services to her just like a son, but if she is younger, he should not do so.
  • In the Vedic system there are the most restrictions on grihasthas, since they have the idea that women are enjoyable. There are not so many rules for other orders.
  • Elements of celibacy are explained in most detail in the description of brahmachari ashrama.
  • Only in more developed cultures social interaction does not have to be flirting.
  • In Vedic culture woman is seen as mother, with respect. As one has relationship with one’s mother, one has that relationship with all women. But when women are seen as sex symbols, it actually reduces interaction and relationships.
  • A list of laws deal with every aspect, not leaving anything uncovered. We may never come across all those situations, but kings do.
  • Manu is the complete social science mechanics.
  • If we understand the principles, it is not difficult to follow many rules. Just like there are innumerable recipes, but one who knows the principle of cooking can see what’s available and put things together.
  • Grihastha ashrama is founded on brahmachari ashrama, where respect is a very essential quality.
  • Many times people have problems in relationships because they don’t catch the principle of respect.
  • It is always emphasized that wife follows the husband, but even man also follows his Guru. He followed Guru as a brahmachari, and continues to follow as a grihastha.
  • In varna one might be a big person, but in ashrama one is always submissive.
  • Culture is everything about our life what we do and how we use things in Krishna consciousness.
  • Everything in the creation is feminine, and one is trying to enjoy everything. Therefore rules for dealing with women pertain to all living entities who have taken a masculine mood and looking at the world for their enjoyment.
  • Whatever one wants to enjoy, one actually has to act like a servant and follow the proper rules to make things work.
  • We can assist the material energy to make things happen.
  • Masculine idea is to do something to get a result; feminine nature is to be involved in something to get an experience.
  • The Lord does not have a problem that we see His energy and we want to do something with it, the problem is that we are leaving Him out of it.

Brihad Manu Siksha #11 Lecture Notes

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Full lecture transcription [link not active yet]

  • Honoring the wife and son of the teacher.
  • Senior students in the Gurukula should also be honored.
  • Teachers who teach great number of students, teach 10 of them, and they teach younger students.
  • It is generally not recommended to take more than 12 students.
  • Assisting in bath, taking remnants etc are not done for the teacher’s wife and son.
  • After 20 years of age (at the age where one is aware and male and female interaction) one should not touch the feet of Guru’s wife.
  • Materially elevated people may be more refined and sense-controlled, but only devotee can be free from material desires.
  • One should not stay in a lonely place even with one’s mother, sister or daughter.
  • Manu gives standard human culture.
  • If Guru’s wife is elderly, the student may render services to her just like a son, but if she is younger, he should not do so.
  • In the Vedic system there are the most restrictions on grihasthas, since they have the idea that women are enjoyable. There are not so many rules for other orders.
  • Elements of celibacy are explained in most detail in the description of brahmachari ashrama.
  • Only in more developed cultures social interaction does not have to be flirting.
  • In Vedic culture woman is seen as mother, with respect. As one has relationship with one’s mother, one has that relationship with all women. But when women are seen as sex symbols, it actually reduces interaction and relationships.
  • A list of laws deal with every aspect, not leaving anything uncovered. We may never come across all those situations, but kings do.
  • Manu is the complete social science mechanics.
  • If we understand the principles, it is not difficult to follow many rules. Just like there are innumerable recipes, but one who knows the principle of cooking can see what’s available and put things together.
  • Grihastha ashrama is founded on brahmachari ashrama, where respect is a very essential quality.
  • Many times people have problems in relationships because they don’t catch the principle of respect.
  • It is always emphasized that wife follows the husband, but even man also follows his Guru. He followed Guru as a brahmachari, and continues to follow as a grihastha.
  • In varna one might be a big person, but in ashrama one is always submissive.
  • Culture is everything about our life what we do and how we use things in Krishna consciousness.
  • Everything in the creation is feminine, and one is trying to enjoy everything. Therefore rules for dealing with women pertain to all living entities who have taken a masculine mood and looking at the world for their enjoyment.
  • Whatever one wants to enjoy, one actually has to act like a servant and follow the proper rules to make things work.
  • We can assist the material energy to make things happen.
  • Masculine idea is to do something to get a result; feminine nature is to be involved in something to get an experience.
  • The Lord does not have a problem that we see His energy and we want to do something with it, the problem is that we are leaving Him out of it.

Difficult Versus Unfavorable Family Life

Reading from Nectar of Instruction Study Guide (based on the essays of Bhaktivinoda Thakura): “But, when the home becomes unfavorable for his service, he then becomes eligible to leave home.”

HH BVPS Maharaja: So it’s an eligibility, to leave home. Not just you don’t like it in the home. Your wife drives you nuts, your kids drive you nuts, therefore you are eligible to leave home. No. Continue reading Difficult Versus Unfavorable Family Life

Nectar of Instruction Thematic Lecture #14

This course is part of Sastra-Caksus, Year 2 and consists of 25 lectures, available on:

http://seminary.bhaktivedantaacademy.com/classes/noi-thematic/

Given in Bhaktivedanta Academy, Sridham Mayapur November-December 2011

The following are lecture notes briefly delineating its contents

  • Only very powerful, very cultured and very rich people might get involved with several women, but still if they are intelligent they don’t do it.
  • Association between men and women should be on the woman’s terms.

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Nectar of Instruction Thematic Lecture #13

This course is part of Sastra-Caksus, Year 2 and consists of 25 lectures, available on:

http://seminary.bhaktivedantaacademy.com/classes/noi-thematic/

Given in Bhaktivedanta Academy, Sridham Mayapur November-December 2011

The following are lecture notes briefly delineating its contents

  • One should not be excessively attached to association with women, even with one’s own wife.
  • Improper association is given up. If man and woman are associating based on material enjoyment, that is to be given up.

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