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The Law of Marriage
- Student should preferably have completed both his study and his vow.
- The nature of the family takes on the quality of the woman, because she manages then home environment.
- If both man and woman are untrained, it is also a match.
- One who is dvija and knows their gotra and sapindas should not marry one who does not know.
- Shantipura is famous for fine cloth and Vaishnava aparadha.
- The 8 types of marriage.
- The girl may wait for 3 years after attaining marriageable age. If the father has then not found husband for her, she may chose on her own.
- In Kali yuga, only first 4 rites are allowed and approved for all the 4 varnas.
- Paisaca and asura rites are never recommended by anyone, even though some people may use them. Manu simply describes all the ways how people may possibly get married.
- Usually all marriages end in proper rites, the variety is only how it starts off.
- Choice on one’s own is based on emotions.
- No one quarrels while they are chanting Hare Krishna. When the chanting stops, then the argument starts.
- Modern means living in the temporary sphere. Vedic means living in the eternal sphere.
- 56:00 Girls get dowry as a gift from father instead of inheritance. There are several reasons for it. First, girl does not have to wait until fathe’s death to get something. Secondly, whatever she receives from the father is associated with the pleasant event of marriage, instead of father’s death.
- Nowadays everybody is using gandharva rite, even though later they may confirm it with other rites.
- For brahmanas the giving of girl is confirmed by a libation of water. For others, mutual consent is enough. For brahmanas it is more important to signify giving of the girl in the form of contract, the giving is performed with no strings attached. Otherwise, stealing from a brahmana becomes possible, and this is very sinful.