God made it, and this is the way God likes it. God likes to come home and have His women behave like this. That's why He made it like that. That's why He made the śāstras like that, that's why He made the culture like that. Because this is what
A brāhmana should always fear homage as if it were poison; and constantly desire to suffer scorn as though he would long for nectar. For he who is scorned may sleep with an easy mind, but the scorner utterly perishes.
Kali-rāja knows: you break down restriction, you break down relationships. You break down relationships, people can't work together. People can't work together, you cannot have saṅkīrtana.
For Kṛṣṇa, spending time with the devotees - that is what is important. Just getting things done, He is already doing that as Paramātmā, and He is not with the devotees, that's why it is considered a lower level.
If it is connected to Krishna, it is spiritual. It is not connected to Kṛṣṇa - it is material, that's all. But the form between the two is the same. That must be understood, otherwise relationships cannot be understood.